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Words of Inspiration and Comfort To Those Who Have Lost A Child

Rosh Hashanah is a holiday of contradictions for me...How can I be both solemn and happy at the same time? How do I go into the holiday happy, knowing that everything is going to be ok?
Rosh Hashanah Musings - Finding The Good
If dreams about my son were just wishful thinking to have him with me again, I should be dreaming about him every night since I am constantly thinking about him...
Do Dreams About My Child Have Any Meaning?
Somehow, I have to find a way to live my life without that limb. I have to find a way to carry on with day to day living, working around the debilitating reality that my son is not here...
How I'm Living With Loss - Finding Grief Relief After The Death Of My Adult Child
It's been more than a year since my son passed away. Of all the things that had to get done after his burial, I still remember the following tasks as taking the most out of me emotionally as well as physically...
The 4 Hardest Things I Had To Do After My Son Passed Away
Furniture is not needed in the next world...
What My Child's Soul Really Needs In Heaven
On Tisha B’Av the custom is to fast and fasting is not easy for me. My gut reaction to the 9th of Av is that I just want to get through the day. I’ll be looking at the clock constantly, counting down the hours and minutes till I can eat something...
On Tisha B'Av G-d Is Mourning With Us

I always found it quite strange that we observe the trappings of mourning a whole year for a parent, whereas for a child, only one month of mourning is mandated...
Grief Has No Timeline
G-d, you want to make this world a better place, but You just make it worse by taking away good, kind, and caring people...
The Meron Tragedy
For those of us who have lost a child, talking about our feelings of grief is very painful. It’s often harder for us because sometimes we have no one to talk to...
Who Can I Talk To About Child Loss?
When my son suddenly passed away last year, I felt angry for months. I was angry at my husband, at my friends, at the bank clerk. I was angry at everything and everyone...
Is It OK To Be Angry At G-d?
I fondly remember our family seders when Jacob and his brothers were young. They received afikoman prizes for searching and finding the hidden piece of matzah. When they got older, finding the afikoman was less of a thrill, but they still enjoyed telling over the story of the Exodus...
Passover Seder Without My Son
This was the day I’d been dreading. Thankfully, it wasn’t the miserable crying fest I thought it would be...
My Son's First Yahrzeit
In this video, Mr. Kornbluth debunks popular ideas about cremation and makes an intellectual and passionate case for Jewish burial...
Cremation Or Burial - A Jewish View
The poetry of the tragedy of child loss set to popular music...
Poetry Of Grief
Here are some of the Rebbe’s insights on the terrible tragedy of child loss...
The Rebbe Speaks To Grieving Parents About Child Loss
After we’ve passed on, will we live again? Will we be reunited with our loved ones? Will a bodily resurrection really happen or is it wishful thinking?...
Resurrection - Wishful Thinking Or Reality?
One of the basic tenets of Judaism is belief in an afterlife. What exactly is the afterlife and what happens there?...
Life In The Afterlife
For the past few weeks, I was unsure of how I wanted to observe Jacob’s birthday. In some ways, I was dreading the day which used to be a happy one...
Happy Birthday Jacob
My son is no longer in this world to light the Chanukah lights with us. Chanukah is a happy time and here I am crying...
Chanukah's Message For A Grieving Mother
Since this blog is in memory of my son, I felt it’s about time I talked about him. I have so many good memories of him and I don’t want to forget them...
Memories About My Son I Don't want To Forget
Do unanswered prayers end up in G-d’s trash can?...
Where Did All My Prayers Go?
I wonder how I would answer the innocuous question:‘So, how many children do you have?’ This question seems harmless enough, but for me, it’s loaded with meaning and pain...
Answering A Painful Question
Death. It’s a word not easily defined. It’s something no one wants to discuss. However, when we do think about death we view it as something negative or even evil, especially when it happens to someone we love. But does G-d bring evil?...
Blessings, Curses, and Colored Glass Bottles
Am I just creating a diversion by surrounding myself with other people or maybe even going to other places to push away unhappy memories? Can I ignore reality by closing my eyes?...
Running Away From Grief
Thank G-d they never lost a child. They can only imagine what it feels like, but they’ll never really know...
I Felt I Was Mourning Alone
When my adult son passed away, the nagging feelings of guilt set in and made me more miserable than I already was. I thought to myself, ‘Was there something I could have done to prevent what happened?’...
Dealing With Guilt And Hashgacha Pratit
My intellectual brain and my emotional heart are worlds apart. Understanding something and emotionally internalizing it are two separate realms that, in me, are totally disconnected from one another...
The Disconnect Between My Head And My Heart
Why didn’t G-d answer my prayers. What’s wrong with what I asked for?...
A Chassidic Teaching From The Alter Rebbe Comforted Me
When my adult son died suddenly, everything seemed upside down. I was confused, agitated, unable to focus on anything for more than five minutes. The world seemed as if it was running backwards. Children are supposed to bury their parents, not the other way around...
Parents Mourning Children In Torah And Tanakh
His sudden passing left me grief stricken and confused. Something was dreadfully wrong. This is not how it’s supposed to be...
How I'm Coping With The Loss Of My Adult Son