My son's sudden death left me grief stricken and confused My emotional and intellectual struggle began four months ago when my dear son of twenty four years unexpectedly passed away from a heart condition no one knew he had. A kind, sweet young man, Jacob was a good son, brother, uncle, and friend to those who knew him. … Continue reading How I’m Coping with the Loss of My Adult Son
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Post Passover Ponderings
Life Is Like The Broken Matzah of the Afikoman I heard an inspiring teaching by Rabbi Benzion Twerski of Milwaukee about the Passover afikoman. Even though Passover has come and gone for this year, I wanted to share this insight because it says something very powerful about how we view life. What Does the Word … Continue reading Post Passover Ponderings
Accepting Comfort After Child Loss
Living In An Intense Stage Of Grief It’s been a bit more than two years since my son passed away at age 24. During that time I’ve gone through the gamut of grief - intense sadness, sadness, anger, depression, and overall agitation. Whereas the intense sadness, anger, and depression have subsided, at times I still … Continue reading Accepting Comfort After Child Loss
Grief and the Parental Guilt Trip
The Problem Of Trying To Parent My Child Beyond Childhood In my post Dealing with Guilt and Hashgacha Pratit, I discussed how G-d has a plan for me and orchestrates my every life event. I do what I can do within human limitations, but beyond that, it's up to Him. Grief over the death of … Continue reading Grief and the Parental Guilt Trip
Therapy for Traumatic Grief
Types of Therapy, Pros and Cons In my post Who Can I talk To About Child Loss, I discussed talking with a grief therapist, a support group, one’s friends, and G-d to find relief from the emotional turmoil one finds oneself after the death of a child. Now I’ll discuss the pros and cons of … Continue reading Therapy for Traumatic Grief
Is My Son Frozen in Time?
A Life Story Cut Short My husband and I attend a support group for bereaved parents. All of us had a child who passed away as an adult. One person mentioned that it’s very painful to watch her child’s friends growing in their careers, getting married, and moving on with their lives. Memories of her … Continue reading Is My Son Frozen in Time?