How I’m Coping with the Loss of My Adult Son


My son's sudden death left me grief stricken and confused My emotional and intellectual struggle began four months ago when my dear son of twenty four years unexpectedly passed away from a heart condition no one knew he had. A kind, sweet young man, Jacob was a good son, brother, uncle, and friend to those who knew him. … Continue reading How I’m Coping with the Loss of My Adult Son

Where Did All My Prayers Go?

Do Unanswered Prayers End Up in G-d's Trash Can? I thought that if I nagged enough, I would get what I want. In fact, nagging the Almighty is even echoed in our prayer book: "Hope in G‑d, be strong and let your heart be valiant, and hope in G‑d.” (Siddur Tehillat Hashem, p.78) This passage … Continue reading Where Did All My Prayers Go?

Answering A Painful Question

Preparing for the Unexpected I’m a firm believer in the Boy Scout motto ‘Be Prepared’. I sometimes think about various scenarios and wonder how I would respond. Now, I don’t often meet new people. And now, with the Covid situation, I’m not meeting anyone at all. But if I did meet someone for the first … Continue reading Answering A Painful Question

Blessings, Curses, and Colored Glass Bottles

Does G-d Create Good and Bad? An Intriguing Verse From the Torah Seems to Say Yes Death. It’s a word not easily defined. It’s something no one wants to discuss. However, when we do think about death we view it as something negative or even evil, especially when it happens to someone we love. But … Continue reading Blessings, Curses, and Colored Glass Bottles

Running Away From Grief

Shabbat With My Son A Pleasant and Happy Family Table The Friday night Shabbat meal was always a special time for our family. When the kids were small, we looked forward to discussing the Torah portion of the week, and of course looked forward to the yummy food, especially the dessert. Then the kids grew … Continue reading Running Away From Grief

I Felt I Was Mourning Alone

Mourning alone

During the week of shiva for my son Jacob, people were coming to our home saying ‘May G-d comfort you among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem’. These are the traditional words of consolation said to Jewish mourners. But I would think ‘Thank G-d they never lost a child. They can only imagine what it … Continue reading I Felt I Was Mourning Alone